Having the energy to argue is a sign of good health! When the two people in a relationship share similar conditions, it is only natural that they will lock horns from time to time. On the other hand, if one party begins to outgrow the other, then the two will probably not have serious confrontations, because their states of life are so different.
It would be great if we could live cheerfully, enjoying life to the extent that we regard our partner’s nagging as a sign of their good health and proof that they are still alive and kicking. When we develop a broad state of life, then even our partner’s ranting and raving will sound like the sweet song of a bird.
(Credit Daisaku Ikeda for the philosophy)