Sometime “biting your tongue” for the feelings of those around you is not worth tolerating their behavior. You just need to bite them instead and see how it makes them feel. 🙄
The n-word is an old word that only should be said in an academic setting. Something like, “you will never believe how people once used nasty this word.”
But, hey I am a historian that wrote primarily on the American Civil War in grad school, so I am all too aware of American Slavery in the Confederate South.